For many years of my own life I felt lost, very much alone and full of doubt. Uncertain what I wanted from life and how to get it.
This was not helped by my own introversion and shyness which prevented me from seeking connection and answers from other people.
Something was wrong. A niggling fear of a meaningless life.
During this time I also pondered what was wrong about my life and how to change it.
A few years ago the fear of nothing resulted in taking a risk. I studied and succeeded in gaining a qualification in nutritional therapy. But this was only the start.
During my education there was one thing that bothered me.
I can tell my clients what to do but how do I get my client to do what I suggest?
I wanted to be a good practitioner, and my effectiveness and success depend on getting people to change their lifestyle and habits. So how is that done?
I see practice like the proverb. Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.
How do I help them change themselves?
This lead to more questions…. How do I get them to change anything? How do I change?
How does anyone change anything?
This lead me to read more on psychology, philosophy and self help books on self improvement and development. I had many ideas and I wanted to share them.
I have long had the idea of writing and about a year ago I started my fist blog. I learned a lot but there was something wrong. The focus was to wide. I was not sure about what I wanted to write.
With this new blog I have a better understanding.
I had the idea….
What if I were to meet my younger self. What would I tell this young Richard?
This would be the basis of my new revamped blog.
I assumed that I would tell him all the knowledge wisdom insight and understanding I have accrued over the years, so he would not make the mistakes I did and live a happier, healthier and more fulfilling life than I have so far.
It’s about Changing your Life.
How to change. What to change.
This blog is for those people who seek a new direction in life or wish to enjoy the life they have.
Consider…. when it comes to the end of your days what stories would you tell? What memories would you recollect? Will there be joy in you heart, or regret?
I am here to give you ideas on how to live a life worth retelling, and saviour those moments yourself. Ideas to help you become more than the person you think you are.
So it’s about passion and purpose. Insight and knowledge. Connection and meaning.
All the things we want our lives to be full of.
So we can rest with peace in our hearts and a smile on our lips.
This is what I am searching for and I can’t just be the only one.
I hope what I have to say here resonates with you, if so then this blog is for you.
Why do I do this. Because there is a lot of stuff that needs fixing in this world and I cannot do it all by myself. The best place to start is with yourself so that is what I am here to help with.
This is the letter I wrote to my younger self.
You are just starting out in the world. You are growing up and are about to face the trials of adulthood.
I want to tell you something before you start out.
It is very important, and I want you to know this because it will help you find success happiness in life.
I say this because I have failed so much.
You are so precious to me, more than words can ever express. I know you think you are not very brave but you are, more than you think.
You have such passion, imagination and insight within you, so don't bottle it up and never show it to anyone.
You must speak up and let others see your heart and mind for they are more valuable than all the wealth you will ever possess.
This is most important, you must find others to talk to and connect with for they will teach you things you need to know, and lead you to places you never thought possible.
You must reach out and help others, for doing so you will lead them to realise their dreams and hopes.
You have such compassion and empathy, that to deprive the world of yourself would be too great a loss.
There will be times when you will feel very alone, empty. Where you will feel lost or confused. What is important is to have faith in yourself , even when you have no reason to do so.
You will feel so much doubt and fear.
But take heart, these are just some of the steps you need to tread to find the happiness and peace you are looking for.
There may be moments when you feel like ending it all. I know I have been there. And although no one may come to help, you must step back from the brink. Because that pain is what will be the motivation to find the life you want.
I know you don't believe me, but please trust me on this. Things can and will get better as you learn and grow, so don't give up on yourself. The effort itself yields its own rewards.
What I am going to tell you I have learned from bitter experience and the failures that have been part of my life.
I can't tell you all that I want to tell here, so come back regularly and I will tell you more.
I love you so much.