Self Help and Happiness are making us miserable

Man alone against a wall, grim, dark tone

After suffering for years from anxiety, doubt and depressed moods, I started doing what seemed the obvious: reading books. I read many self-help books to help me find and live a better life. After over a decade of research, I wondered if all the reading was necessary. After years of reading, I felt only a … Read more

No, the world doesn’t have to make sense

In our quest for happiness, much of our suffering comes from our desire for the world to make sense and to have answers so we can feel safe. I found this myself as I struggled with social anxiety and depression. You see people rushing around trying to make sense of the world and their lives, … Read more

Is Buddhism Nihilistic?

With the idea in Buddhism of No-Self or Non-self, there is a thought and concern that Buddhism is Nihilistic, denying any existence or meaning in life. It’s sometimes criticism of Buddhist philosophy, and we have questions as we investigate Buddhism. Illusion and Non-existence One reason why such an accusation of forwards is the Buddhist idea … Read more

Sensitivity and the fear of overwhelm, and overload

Sensitive type of person

My fear and anxiety have to do with the future, the fear of being overwhelmed or stressed by a situation. It’s that state where you are so overstimulated it feels upsetting. I feel it in the pit of my stomach, an uneasiness; I feel cold, palms sweaty, trembling hands. The overwhelm feels like a loss … Read more