Self Help and Happiness are making us miserable

Man alone against a wall, grim, dark tone

After suffering for years from anxiety, doubt and depressed moods, I started doing what seemed the obvious, reading books. I read many Self-help books to address my suffering and live a better life. But now it has me. After over a decade of research, I wondered if all the reading was necessary. Doubts about self-help … Read more

No, the world doesn’t have to make sense

In our quest for happiness, much of our suffering comes from our desire for the world to make sense and to have answers so we can feel safe. I found this myself as I struggled with social anxiety and depression. You see people rushing around trying to make sense of the world and their lives, … Read more

Our Fetishisation of Consciousness

hinking about Life, Rodin's The Thinker

Something I’ve noticed in my struggle with anxiety was seeing how overthinking is and still is part of my life.  Looking more broadly, I see how it’s become part of society. In a world that bombards us with information, we have been more driven into our minds than in previous eras. Most of all, it … Read more

Sensitivity and the fear of overwhelm, and overload

Sensitive type of person

My fear and anxiety have to do with the future, the fear of being overwhelmed or stressed by a situation. It’s that state where you are so overstimulated it feels upsetting. I feel it in the pit of my stomach, an uneasiness; I feel cold, palms sweaty, trembling hands. The overwhelm feels like a loss … Read more