Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they’re finished.” Dan Gilbert These words of a psychologist point out our fundamental mistake we make when it comes to who and what we are. Anxiety, depression, low self-esteem. We think these are features that define who we are, and there is nothing we can do […]
The Social Anxiety of answering: Who are you and What do you do?
I have felt some social anxiety at describing myself to others. You know how it is, you meet a stranger, online or face to face. The first questions that will get asked are always the same. Who are you/ What do you do? You know it’s going to happen and our next struggle is to […]
Does medicine create mental illness?
I came across an article in the New York Times by T.M Lurhman, The Anxious Americans pointing out that America has become the most anxious country in the world. Spending vast amounts of money on anxiety medications. The real question is why. To be sure there’s a genetic vulnerability to anxiety, but that only governs […]
Is mobile technology threatening our social skills?
On my way home from London the carriage was almost quiet. Few people talked. They were either reading a paper, a book, or like myself engrossed in their phone, tablet, or laptop. But its not just here, technology has worked it’s way into our social life everywhere. We talk to each other keeping one eye […]
Top 10 books for social anxiety
If I had to read just ten books to help me overcome social anxiety what would they be? I have read many books on personal development, trying to overcome my fears. My search has also taken me into the subjects of philosophy, spirituality, psychology and business. What you see below are top ten books I […]
How society creates outcasts (and the socially anxious)
They disapprove of you, and you know it. Whatever you said or did they don’t like it. They don’t like your behaviour, you see it in their actions. The furtive glances, disapproving scowls. You have broken a rule, breached a taboo, and now you feel guilty. Shame floods your mind, you walk away even though […]