When I first started to write my blog I like many others did my research.
I read books, listened to Podcasts on entrepreneurship, writing, marketing and more.
In some podcasts there would be interviews with successful people. Those who had thriving businesses. They would share their journey to success.
At first, these were inspiring, giving me the motivation to keep writing. But after a couple of years, I felt differently.
The stories no longer inspired me but instead left me feeling demoralised. Why?
Because their stories were just too far removed from my own life, too far-fetched, too lucky for me to ever really believe I could be the same. Success became all too serious.
All the fun and joy of writing and ideas were crushed by the desire I had to match their success. It was as if I was being told, ‘this is the type of success you should be aiming for.’
Such a burden dealt a heavy blow to my motivation. Was all this work and worry really worth a goal I was unlikely to meet?
They set a standard I felt was impossible to meet, a vision so lofty I couldn’t imagine myself finding.
I did the only thing I could do. I stopped listening to the podcasts, blogs and their success stories.
It was one of the best moves I made.
I no longer felt under the shadow of these successful people, envious of their success. Now I focus more on my own path and the work I had to do.
This to me was a lesson. Success stories can be a double-edged sword. Inspiring, but they can turn passion into self-doubt and despair. Because too great a vision can leave us feeling undeserving of such success or dubious of finding it.
Getting away from these stories is a necessary step to keep the focus on own own path and what we need to do.
In the modern Internet age we’re bombarded by such stories, which shows the dubious benefit of the web. Maybe we just need to follow one story and let that be our guide for a while. A single voice rather than the cacophony of noise.
We’re always on the lookout for better information. This leads us to listen to far too many voices in our search for greatness. We get so confused and overwhelmed by all the advice that we end up taking little or no action on any of it.
Too much of a good thing can be a bad thing and success stories are no different.
We need to learn more from our peers too. Those who like ourselves are still struggling to make a dent in the world and are finding it hard to figure out why.
Those who have no followers, or subscribers who constantly fail. Because we have common ground and they understand how we feel.
Success stories have their place by giving us the inspiration to find our dreams. But they also create despair and anxiety at ever reaching them.
They can set out a standard that can seem impossibly high. We need to focus more on one voice who can help us takes the next steps, the more immediate goals, whilst still keeping our eye on our bigger dreams.
To subscribe to those blogs, Podcasts, emails and videos and focus on the work.